It had to happen eventually: 'will you sell me your doll?'

[InvisibleWings]

Just a normal DoA Monday, answered a very nice PM about whether certain clothes would fit a particular doll I have. Come back later to another PM: 'would you consider selling your doll to me? I don't have MP access yet.'

I think it's best expressed with emoticons:

:angry:angry:angry*_**_**_*:o:o:o:omgwtf:omgwtf:de ad:dead:blush:blush:XD

I think it's never the doll you're sure someone will ask about, and part of me is flattered that my girl would prompt a similar 'want' response in someone else. But, if she was for sale she'd be in the MP, and I'd only sell her to someone I knew personally if he/she did not have MP access.

....somehow I think 'lol no!' isn't the right response to this girl's PM. :|

[Karie Chaos]

I'd be linking her to the discussion thread on that particular subject. DOA actually has a thread about people asking to buy dolls that aren't even up for sale on the MP. I think that's ridiculous, if it's not for sale, obviously they aren't going to sell it too you for no good reason. XP Silly human.

[toshirodragon]

I've yet to have someone ask me that... I dunno HOW I'd react.

Maybe everyone knows I'm a miser packrat at heart and don't bother asking:lol

[rishimsin]

Wow..x-x For one it's against DoA rules to sell things to people without Marketplace access and for two it's really just fool hardy to message somebody and ask if they'd tell you their doll..I mean..if it was for sale I still wouldn't tell it to somebody who just out of the blue asked like that. -headshake-

I guess some people just don't know any better or think about it. Best to point out the rules and such and let them down gently though, too hard of a drop isn't gonna teach 'em anything but to be bitter and bitchy.

[Foxxian]

I for one think its horribly rude. If they dont have MP access the easiest way to fix that is to start posting.. Although I suppose thats why people go nuts in the photostory gallery on doa and start posting on everything in sight. x.x.

Id probably just reply with a simple flat out "No." and nothing else. Since Id probably not think of anything else to say, at least that isnt nice. <.<

[sublimetrickster]

Toshirodragon: Will you sell me your Tedros? :p

Honestly, I can't even imagine myself in the girls place and what thinking process she used to deside it was an okay question... and I'm usually pretty good at that. The guts (gall, even?) she must have... how old was she? That sense of entitlment sounds like it could come from a younger person.

Total wtf moment right there. But yeah, be nice about the response, but I suggest making it clear somehow that such a question was not appreciated and most people would find it rude so that she actually learns something.

[toshirodragon]

Toshirodragon: Will you sell me your Tedros? :p

Honestly, I can't even imagine myself in the girls place and what thinking process she used to deside it was an okay question... and I'm usually pretty good at that. The guts (gall, even?) she must have... how old was she? That sense of entitlment sounds like it could come from a younger person.

Total wtf moment right there. But yeah, be nice about the response, but I suggest making it clear somehow that such a question was not appreciated and most people would find it rude so that she actually learns something.

Certainly... but I suspect you won't want to pay the price. :lol

I, too, can't imagine asking someone out of the blue. That's just so -so-so tacky and rude.

[Kyrenea]

hehe...if we are all going to proposition Kris - may I have Nicky?

But joking aside. I mean it is one thing for friends to joke about loving each others dolls and wanting them and droping hints like "if you ever decide", I'm happy to know friends love my dolls...but for a complete stranger to ask just out of the blue?

I've had it happen - but face-to-face at a doll meet vs through PM. Shocked doesn't really describe my reaction.

I have a LOT of emtions tied up in my dolls - they are all my characters. The fact that it was Arlie made it that much worse. I politely said "no - she is not for sale" and when the girl asked a 2nd time and said she just LOVED her the way she was...I had to explain why that doll in particular would never be sold. Then we had the big dissappointed sigh.

It was her first meet, plus she was a teenager and was w/the daughter of another owner. So I think it was bad manners from many different directions.

It might have been easier through PM...I could have ignored the question. But I agree, send a short and to the point message stating "No. I'm glad you like her, she is such and such sculpt and can be purchased directly from this company."

[toshirodragon]

Speaking of Nicky, I'm nearly finished with his new shirt from the pattern you sent me.

I think I would just stare in shock at someone who asked if I'd sell one of my boys. I can't even decide if I really want to "reshell" one of my boys or not.

[InvisibleWings]

All right, message sent to her. Often I find it's good to step away from it for a while and do other things, that way I'm not firing off any messages in the heat of the moment. I said I was flattered that she liked Ashaya but that she was not for sale. If I was considering selling her or any doll, it would only be in the MP. The rules for access are there for a reason and soliciting transactions outside of it is grounds for either never gaining access or having one's access removed.

Translation: hell no, like I'd risk my MP access to sell you my doll that's not for sale in the first place. :D

Oh well, I suppose I can dot that square on my DoA bingo card. :XD

This is the girl in question. ilu Ashaya. :heart

http://www.nokoru.net/dolls/ashaya/Ashaya13.jpg

[InvisibleWings]

Thank you to everyone for the supportive words and the shared WTF. It really helped a lot. :XD :kisses:kisses

[Kyrenea]

She is a beauty.

Glad the shared WTF helped. It is a rather emotion stirring experience.

[s0yuz]

I haven't had anything happen like this, possibly because my crew is no longer spammed on DoA. But if it did happen, it'd get a WTF from me and then would be publically posted for total humiliation in the General Discussion or Buying/Trading Q's forum, with the sender's name attached to it.

That being said, I have circumvented the MP to buy a doll. A girl in the IH JID thread was complaining that she might have to sell her Ryan to pay for her bills. I dropped her a PM to let her know I was interested if she was serious about selling him, and to let me know when he was put up for sale. She messaged back with her terms. Billy Jack never had a MP listing for him, although the seller and I did leave positive feedback for each other for the sale.

[toshirodragon]

That's pretty much how I got Khefri. The woman had posted in the meet up thread that she needed to sell some of her dolls to pay some bills and I told her I'd take her Afra.

[richila]

Invisible Wings Your girl is beautiful.

I have been approached in person by people I didn't know to buy dolls. Some people think that if they see it they should be able to buy it. I have had it happen with cloth dolls, hand carved woodens and resins. It still baffles me.

(No Shriara! I will not ask Miss Kris if you can buy Jake. One does not buy boyfriends.) :o

[sublimetrickster]

InvisibleWings: She is gorgeous, I can see why she was coveting. But still, going from coveting to actually proposing to buy her, that's a bit much.

[toshirodragon]

(No Shriara! I will not ask Miss Kris if you can buy Jake. One does not buy boyfriends.) :o

BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Oh dear Shriara...;)

[autumndreams]

I think it's odd to actually ask to buy someone else's property if it doesn't have a For Sale on it, no matter what it is!

[Taco]

No one has asked me that. How I would reply (which would be in the negative) would depend on the tone of the post. It would be a polite 'no' for someone who asked politely. If it was someone being rude and badgering, I would report them as it's against forum rules.

Though I can see where it could be seen flattering depending on the tone of the message, at the same time I don't like it. If I want to sell something on DoA it'll be in the marketplace -- not everything has a price, and to me it comes off as being rather pushy to ask to buy random items that clearly weren't listed for sale. The fact that this person was trying to get around not having marketplace access would also make me a little uncomfortable.

[april]

I've gotten PMs on DoA asking about my dolls. My CP Elf Lishe Vampire gets a few every other year or so... And some others.

I really don't mind. I just tell them that I'm not looking to sell at the moment and that's that. It doesn't really bother me. It's nice to know people like my dolls, I guess! Not that it's important to me, but I don't mind just telling them they aren't for sale.

:) I have a Tedros. 'Haven't been asked about him so far. Or my Sard, for that matter...

And it doesn't happen HERE. DoA has a gazillion people--there will always be SOMEONE there who will try something odd or annoying or whatever, out of so many people! *_*

[MartiG]

This isn't about dolls, but wigs. One time I posted to someone that I loved the wig on their doll and asked what kind it was. They answered me with on offer to sell it. Worked for me.

[toshirodragon]

mmmm yes, when I got my Lati Aida I had a person mention that her Lati's default wig had been damaged and if I ever decided, since I was already thinking of going to a different wig, to sell mine, she'd buy it.

So about a week later I contacted her and sold it! :p

[Gamachii]

Wow, she is a beautiful doll! I think that a polite sidestep is to tell the interested party about the doll and what you did to make her look like she does, so that they might be able to create a doll just as gorgeous, but their own. ^^ Apparently we are not as attached to wigs... perhaps because you can switch up your dolls hair for fun when you want to...

I wonder if people would be interested in doing a clothing swap, trading clothes you are bored of for something of someone else's in your dolls size...

[Karie Chaos]

So far no one's ever asked me to buy them, though people I meet places when I have them with me have asked where they can get one. I usually write down the DOA address and BBB or DollZone's address and let them work on from there.

Though I have a friend that looooooves my Tanso, she says she often finds herself looking at something and thinking 'Tanso would like that' or something. And she loves the colour I managed for Tremis too. X3

[Humbug]

A member pmed me once about my IOS Anos, she didn't outright ask to buy him, but she said to consider her if I ever wanted to sell. I thought it was quite nice, but I could never sell him. :)

[dollieberry]

I am new to the ABJD scene. Would it be rude to ask someone what the make/model of their doll is?

I would never ask to buy someone's doll unless they were obviously selling it though... thats almost like going up to someone and asking to buy the shirt off their back because you like it!

[sublimetrickster]

It's perfectly fine to ask a person about their doll's make/model. :)

[dollieberry]

It's perfectly fine to ask a person about their doll's make/model. :)

Thanks, Thats a relief to hear. :)

Sometimes with the custom wigs and face-ups I can't tell if a doll is the same type as another. Its great for versatility, but it doesn't help with decisions.

[quiltyblythelover]

I actually had something like that happen the other day! I posted picks of a new girl being opened and had someone pm me to ask if she was for sale! Then she wrote back after I finished labeling the photos to say oh I see you just got her- sorry! It was so weird.

[Rabbit-moon]

I had it happen to me. A DOA member asked me to trade my Ltd Ed. Elfdoll K for their Ltd Ed. Eldoll K. They said they liked the face-up on my doll better than the one they owned. It was very strange.

I told them politely "No", because I loved my boy just the way he was, and he was not for sale. I don't think they took it very well. This member use to post comments all the time in my gallery posts. But, from that moment on, they never posted another comment to any of my photos. I guess I became "persona non grata" for not trading my doll (Oh well...)