What would you do if your friend accidentally damaged your doll?

[Ren]

Hi. My friend, who I trusted with the care of Shuri, my first doll (of three), for a week accidentally damaged him. He now has a chip on his nose. Now, she's a good friend and it was an accident so, in a way, it was understandable, but I can't help but feel a little angry with what happened and I don't know what to do about it now. I mean, it can still be fixed (hopefully, because I haven't seen the damage yet, Shuri will be returned to me later) but... I don't know. I know that people are more important than dolls and friends are more important than material belongings but I can't seem to just brush it away. I mean, I trusted her with Shuri because I thought she would not let him get damaged. But accidents happen, and she's only human and I know that but I really just can't get over it. I don't know what to do now. Maybe it's because I just learned of the news, which is why I still can't get over it. But. but... I really don't know what to do right now.

Okay so, I'm not really known to care for my dolls in a very careful manner. I mean, I carry them around on paperbags but I do make sure that even if they're in paperbags, that they won't get damaged. I don't care for a few scratches or such or dirtiness or even small dents on the body but I can't seem to get over this particular damage. Despite my carelessness, I've never damaged one of their faces before and this has been the second time it happened, the first was by another friend, one of my closest childhood friends, to my second doll and I really went berserk and cried and threw a tantrum, even if it was just a small, unnoticeable crack. This time, I didn't go berserk nor cried nor threw a tantrum but I feel angry and I feel like I'll be able to still be friends with her but I feel like I don't want to let her borrow any of them anymore if I'm not there. Am I being unreasonable? I don't know right now. And maybe this post is a bity biased to my side of the story but I can't be fair right now. I'm sorry, I really wanted to share right now.

EDIT: I've calmed down now and I have seen the damage already and it was very minor. My friend and I are okay now, sorry for suddenly ranting here.

[MieAga]

Yikes! How scary!!! I know I would totally freak out!

It might be advisable not to leave your dolls with friends unattended from now on. I'm sure you trust them and they wouldn't hurt your dolls on purpose. But #1- they don't really understand the value of your dolls. It's human nature to treat a 'thing' with more care when it's your time/money/blood/sweat that's gone into it. #2- You don't want to be mad at them for accidents that aren't all their fault. As you said people are human. You'll be doing them a favor, whether your friends understand or not, by not putting them/and your friendship at that kind of risk.

Best wishes to you dolly! I hope you can get his nose cleaned up quickly!

[sequentverdure]

I'm sorry you had this happen - that must be absolutely scary. :damnit
I think what MieAga said made sense. Even though I trust my friends, I wouldn't give them my dolls to hold on to, if only because I don't think they'd know how to treat them.
I noticed that even between "dolly people" there are differences in how one treats dolls. I treat mine like porcelain :oops I never ever touch their faces, for example. I use them for photoshoots, primarily, and just to keep me company as I write my essays. At doll meets, I've seen people happily sit their dolls on grass, or hug them against themselves - I'd never do this for fear of smooshing eyelashes or something. :sweat So I just make it a rule that I have to be around when someone is playing with mine, to avoid discomfort.
However, what's done is done, and though I'm glad to hear that the damage to Shuri isn't very bad, I think the way I would handle it if I was in that situation, was to maybe have your friend pay for sending him off for a repair (dolly cosmetic nose surgery?) ? Even if it was an accident, she was responsible for him, so it only seems fair to me. If you decide not to send him anywhere, then maybe your friend can find another way to make it up to you? (I know I'd feel awful if I hurt anyone's doll, and would feel better if I had a chance to do something for them.)
Sorry for the extensive ramble - I just thought I'd give you my outlook on the situation. :) (And don't apologize for ranting - it's an interesting discussion question, I think, even your case aside :nod)

[sailorstarsun]

Thankfully the damage isn't bad, though if it's something that requires spending money to have fixed, I'd hope she, as a dear friend, would offer to pay for at least part of the repairs. Whithout having to be asked.

The only friends I'll let take my dolls for any extended period of time are other collectors. They know the value and how to care for them.

But yeah. Accidents happen, and your dolls are important to you, so it's understandable that you'd freak out a little. .^^ But don't let it ruin your friendship.

I hope everything works out for you!

[Mekou]

I haven't had it happen to me personally yet, but I know someone from the local doll community who had two of his dolls damaged on accident (both a bit of face-up damange and a scratch on one, I think) when someone accidently caused a nearby table to shake. @_@

I think accidents can happen, even in the most careful of hands. However, I definitely would not allow a frequently clumsy friend to hold onto my doll without supervision. Face-up chipping is fixable, but it's a different matter if something broke off comepletely. That would be heartbreaking.

[LauraJ]

I take my dolls all over the place, but I'm always very careful with them. The one doll that I almost never take anywhere is my ElfDoll Sooah (River). I think maybe that's because she was my first 60 cm and my hubby made payments for 6 months to get her for me. I think I'd be very upset if something happened to her, even accidentally.
I guess with the rest of my dolls, I worry less. Also, we customize things, so between myself and my hubby, I guess I feel that I could fix most things that could possibly happen. Scratches and chips can be sanded, cracks can be patched.

[Merle]

I can't help but think that if this person who caused the damage is a true friend they would just explain the problem and pay to have it fixed. It's not important if it was a $10 or $1000 doll that got damaged it's the principle. No matter what I would borrow from someone if I damaged it then it's my responsibility to replace or repair it.

Not to state the obvious but if that didn't happen in these cases then IMHO I think you need to keep your dolls home until your friends have matured enough to be able to handle them responsibily.

[BoneBagz]

First, I would never let a friend borrow one of my dolls.

However, if I were in your shoes; I would fully expect my friend to replace the head that was damanged. If the friend would has a problem with that idea, then I guess he/she was not a true friend.

[Kittywolf13]

Im ok with it. most damages are fixable. Faceups can be redone, fingers reattached. sure its a bit un-nerving at first and upsetting...but for the most part it is fixable. My friends are more valueable in the long run then my doll. ive seen "breakages" as challenges really. My dz recall head arrived broken...so i modded it completly...and he became a she and really beautiful...

...I was at a park with two dolly friends and had Aiden (my dz mo) hanging upside down by his legs from a monkey bars...a gust of wind knocked him over and he toppled down to the ground about 4 feet. He was dirty and dusty but i thought no harm became of it. A few weeks later my friend was playing with him when suddenly something went "snap" inside of him. She freaked out and looked at me like "OMG! I broke him!!" i went over to inspect him and realised the piece of resin that the notch snaps into had broken off in his back (meaning he cant snap into place now...popping his back in and out). I sighed and then smiled at her and told her its ok. its fixable if i really wanted to, but it doesnt affect his appearence and really his posing isnt really affected either...it was probably the fall from the other day.

It took her awhile to get over the fact that she "broke" him. but it was ok. hes fine and still my lovely Aiden. Hes still smarmy as ever even with a little notch missing out of him. :3

[Anavel]

Well, if the damages is fixable I would not be so angry. But if it is really bad, I would ask my friend to replace it

[psycholily]

well, i NEVER let julian out of my sight, and rarely out of my hands (everyone i show him to touches his faceup and i'm worried they'll damage it.)

but if that were to somehow happen to me, i think i'd have a heart attack. because i can't afford accidental damage insurance for my baby, i'm extra careful.

let me tell you that friend and i wouldn't be catching up for coffee for a loooooong time

dolls>people today

[april]

Lots of good advice here.

I think that it's understandable being upset about what happened--accident or not, good friend or not.

BUT--I think you'll get over the worst part of the shock after a while and will be better able to think about what you should feel and how you should behave and what you'll do in the future, etc.

I think you will feel better toward your friend later on. And even more if you can see exactly how bad the damage is and see how you can get it fixed, etc. Just try and be positive--find out how to get the damage fixed (if you even need to--it may not be so bad!). Try not to say anything you may regret to your friend... maybe just keep away from the subject, if you aren't sure how you may respond--at least for a while, until you get used to what has happened and see what your options are.

I guess that's how I'd handle it. Try not to show how mad I am, since it isn't their fault. And if I wanted to keep my friend, I'd try to cool off a bit before I said something I'd regret. And hopefully, your friend will be good--and help out with the cost of repairs--and they will tell you exactly what happened so you know it was truly an accident and not their fault... If it really isn't their fault, then I'd try to forgive them! After all--it's possible that your friend would have taken perfect care of your doll and it still got damaged--and that even if you never gave your doll to your friend--the same thing might have happened when you had the doll in your own hands... Sometimes it's just an accident.

(On the other hand--if your friend did something you'd have never done... You still have to figure that she didn't MEAN to do it--and then you follow the advice of everyone here and never give your doll to someone, even someone you trust, because things could go wrong and you don't want to lose a friend over it!)

[Cold.April.Sky]

Hmmm.... kill her\him? I never give my dolls to anyone. I want them to be safe. I mean friends/dolls both )

[MaggieMoonbeam]

Well, I'm sure you had good reason to let your friend keep your dolls, and I'm VERY happy to hear that the damage is not really serious. But, having said that, I would probably have had a tantrum myself, and I'm 60! Last tantrum I threw was about 5 years ago, and IT was over a friend and a doll. So...
I read auctions on Y!J where the sellers state that the doll has never been handled with bare hands. That seems so wierd to me. But I do love my dolls, and I'm very picky about how other people handle them. If they might get broken, I'd rather I were the one to do it. I would hate having any of my dolls hurt by another person who didn't realize what they mean to me. I'm with psycholily....dolls>people

[lin]

I don't ever leave my dolls anywhere but home, but if a friend accidently damaged one of them at a meetup or something, I'd probably just blow it off. I think people are more important than dolls, however expensive. It's unlikely to happen though, because everyone I know at meetups has expensive dolls too, so they are very careful with mine.

[blackwingsblackheart]

I allowed a good friend of mine to borrow one of my Minifee heads (unfaced-up, sans eyes), and though I kept saying to myself, "I trust her, she knows to be careful", I was on pins and needles until she gave her back. It would devastate me to have Kiyoshi or Minnaloushe damaged, and I don't know how long it would be before the friendship could be repaired. I treat my dolls as personalities, not just inanimate objects, and I'd feel like there had been a double violation of trust, my friend against me and me against my dolls, who have to depend on me to protect them from harm.

Some people I know have sent some of their dolls off to "visit" friends in another state or city; I really don't understand how they can do that. Unless it's for faceups or mods, I have no intention of letting any of my dolls out of my hands for any length of time. But then, I'm very territorial, and hated every minute of the one sleepover I went on--it's only fairly recently that I learned to enjoy staying in hotels instead of grumping about wanting my own bed--so why would I inflict on my dolls what I loathed as a child?

[derilan85]

:mad NO WAY IN HELL will I let my friends or family for that matter come near my dolls or play with them, first off, when I had a Tiffany Taylor( the big Tuesday Taylor) when I was little, I had left my doll at my aunt's house, thinking it would be safe until I returned the next day. Well my grandmother (my mom's mom) let my cousin's play with her, they cut all her hair off*_* and then she tells me that it was a accident?! After that if you want to come near me and my dolls you need God himself to get help.

[nena]

Several friends and I have had our dolls visit each other with no problems. If one of my friends damaged my dolls, I would ask them to pay for damages/replacements, and I'm sure they would comply.

I wouldn't let certain dolls of mine visit people however, if they are extremely dear, or are a rare mold or have an irreplaceable faceup. It's just not a good idea to set yourself up for a bad situation. :\

There was one case where I lent a friend a doll body, and when it was returned I noticed the locking piece for the knee was broken, so the leg would twist about and no longer stand straight.. I was upset about it, but since I hadn't been using the body (it had been stored away), I didn't know whether I might have done it earlier and not noticed. Nevertheless it's taught me to be more careful about who handles what dolls.

[jinjur]

UGH.....this has already happened to me. I let a friend hold my doll and
she rubbed the blush. She just put her in her sweatshirt pocket. My
heart broke she was perfect and new. I haven't said anything but I won't be letting others handle my girls anytime soon. I can't look my girl right
now it's still kinda raw for me. I blame myself she is not a bjd person.

[Laylian]

Well, if a friend of mine accidentaly damaged a doll, I'd like to think that I could see the bright side of things. As in, 'Well, it's not too badly damaged,' or 'You didn't mean for it to happen!' But I think deep inside, I would feel hurt. It's kinda like if you left someone watch your house though, and they knock over a vase that was special to you. It's terrible, it hurts, but eventually you come to terms with what happened.

The first time one of my dolls got chipped, it was my fault! He fell face first into some concret. So now, chips and such don't bother me. Though when my best friend's doll got here, we had them posing with some swords and her new boy- not one day old- bent at the waist and thunked his head right on the tip of my doll's sharp metal sword. He had a little dent in his forehead! Looked like someone had taken a needle and ground this little hole ito his cranium. I felt worse about the whole thing than she looked lol. My friend just smiled a bit and said it was all right, though she seemed sad. I hope that when (if XD) this happens to me, I'll be able to smile like her and not let it get to me too much!

[Crescent]

Well that happened to me.
But I was the one to have damage my friends doll. When it happened I was so mad at myself. But the first thing I did was to go and search for someone to fix him.
I didn't want to tell my friend in a text but in person. When I saw her a day or two later I told and showed her. Boy was she upset, so I gave her space but she thought I was avoiding her. ^^; silly us.

I told her that I didn't tell asap due to the fact I wanted to do it in person.
I had him fixed by the person who at the time was doing my boys faceup. He's all good now ^^
Out of all the dolls to have fallen and chipped his nose it wasn't mine O.O
*knock on wood*
I always keep an eye when doing photos and even more so now.

[Sameyu]

I would try to prevent that from happening.

[fitz]

I agree with Sameyu, which means for me- No loaning out dolls that are important to me.
If something bad happens with a friend taking care of it- I would blame myself. They might not now how hard it was for me to get the doll, get it painted etc., but I do. And on the other hand I wouldnt take someones doll home with me. At meets I barely touch others dolls, because I know they mean different thing to different people. I usually dont mind at meets that people pick up my dolls, and these people are fellow collectors, so if something minor happens- it usually would have happened in my hands also. I do say "please dont touch the face" alot though.

[Rosebud]

I think that as a rule I wouldn't let anyone play with my doll without me being there. It's not quite like they have to be babysit like a real child. The stay where you put them.

[aernath]

A friend at work accidentally knocked one of my boys over, and a finger got broken. (The doll's not the friend's. ;) )
He was frantically apologetic when all we knew at the time was that the doll had been knocked over. To me it was no big deal because I'd caught the doll by the face before he hit the table top, and thought there was no harm done.
It wasn't until the next day, when I pulled his hand out of his hoodie pocket, and found he was missing a finger!
But by then... well... it was long done and over, so I couldn't very well go back and yell at the poor guy.
At the time, the body was a loaner from a friend.
But, since I broke it, I felt I had just bought it, so did so. ;)

Absolutely, for me, people are more important than dolls, and dolls can be "fixed" far easier than friendships.

The kicker was, this was the second finger to break on my ranch in as many days! After a year and a half of owning dolls, and not losing any digits, BAM! Two in two days! My jaw hit the floor.
And I didn't take anyone out for a couple of days, just in case. >.>

[Aquido]

i'd be MORTIFIED if i broke someone's doll. :( I did it once. I broke my friend's doll's finger. :( I was so mortified, i almost cried. But i bought and gave her a new set of hands, to replace the set i had damaged. I could never just break it and not do anything!

[onegreyelephant]

meh-- I'm always handng my dolls over to complete strangers, dragging them to class with me-- forcing people to pick them up and play with them. I want other people to touch my dolls, it feels like I'm helping to broaden their minds. ( the people, not the dolls) So y'know if something breaks- I'll fix it. No big deal.

[Glyndon]

There is very little that cannot be mended one way or another. I wouldn't ask a friend to replace a doll, that's certain. I would, however, ask that s/he help pay for any material/services required to make repairs. My two cents.

[Bandwidth Broad]

Friends are always more important than objects. However, if you value an object highly, the best policy is to avoid lending it to anybody.

Keep in mind that dolls can be damaged even at home. My youngest cat loves to chew on resin. It upsets me, sure, but luckily I've been able to purchase extra resin hands and feet for his favorite chew-toys. That, and he's slowly being broken of the habit -- he KNOWS it's wrong, just wants the attention.

Give your friend a break. Humans are ... well ... human.

I say the next with total sincerity. I am not particularly rational about my dolls, but I do recognize that they are what they are -- people-shaped objects that I adore. Dolls are inanimate objects, even if we imbue them with personalities, credit them with super-resin abilities, etc. For whatever reason (not trusting people, being shy, having other issues) if our dolls come to mean more to us than the people around us, it might be time for us to seek professional help. Think about it.

[Agnes]

Friends are very important... but that doesn't mean you can't make up excuses for them not to handle your stuff.

I have a friend who is very ham-fisted with everything... She just does not take care with things and can be clumsy, even though there's no malice to it. I don't really like the way she handles my pets, either, but at least they are able to give her what-for if she's bothering them too much or getting in their space. My dolls can't. And I'm sure some people who say friends are more important than dolls would not hold back being angry if a friend did something bad to a pet. So everyone draws their lines differently. I try to grit my teeth when she's handling the dolls and the wig goes askew and the legs are twisted backwards and the doll is in danger of falling off the table because she just doesn't notice. Then I try to get her to do something else while I hide them!

[mel]

I think if someone damaged one of my dolls I would expect them to replace the broken part... maybe that's really harsh, but I think it's fitting. It wouldn't make me happy to know that someone is careless when handling one of my dolls. If I broke someone else's doll I think I would have to own up to it.

Actually, my mom dropped my Petite Ai and broke his finger and toe. She said she would pay for a new body but I haven't gotten around to getting a new one yet. I kind of want a body from a different company but haven't been able to find one I like. *shrug* someday maybe.

[shadowtakatori]

well, I hope this isn't too off-topic, But I can relate to this predicament. I left my fish in the care of my roomate once over christmas break during college, and under her care one of my fish died. The equipment had broken down and she didn't call me, and I never really trusted her in the same way again. I did my best not to get to angery at her, because it was a mistake, but such a mistake is easily avoidable.

[MugenShu]

Ah, I'm very protective of my dolls. I feel as if most of the people around me mishandle things to the point of extreme damage so I don't let anyone hold them. For me it's easier to know that I was the cause of an accident rather than a friend because I can be very harsh (i.e. demanding money back, bringing up the past, ending friendships {one's that were going to end anyway}) While My dolls are no replacement for friends my dolls are a portion of myself that I use to make sence of things so if a friend hurts them I feel as if their hurting me.

yeah....major strangeness~

[ravendolls]

I know I would be upset, so I would *never* NEVER burden someone with that kind of responsibility.
If someone asked me to keep their doll for them, I'd check it on arrival, carefully place it in a box at the top of my closet where it'd be safe, and that would be that!

Raven

[Hobbysue]

If the person wasn't a BJD owner, I don't think I'd lend them a doll. They're too expensive an item to replace. I may feel differently if parts are available separately. I have kids so any doll that comes to this house risks being damaged and that's something I have to accept. It's influenced my buying on a number of occasions, I'd never own a Bermann or a very expensive limited doll. Friends come first, but it's not unreasonable to expect them to repair the damage or to be upset about it happening in the first place. I'm glad you were both able to work everything out.

[PeabodyRose]

If is was major damage, I'd probably make them pay for a fix or just have them buy me a present. :)

But seriously...my friends wouldn't want to borrow them anyway.

[onegreyelephant]

well, I hope this isn't too off-topic, But I can relate to this predicament. I left my fish in the care of my roomate once over christmas break during college, and under her care one of my fish died. The equipment had broken down and she didn't call me, and I never really trusted her in the same way again. I did my best not to get to angery at her, because it was a mistake, but such a mistake is easily avoidable.

but a fish is alive.......a doll is just a doll. expensive maybe- but not alive.

[yeast]

Glad this never happened to me. There was one time when my boy fell from his standing position, but I caught him in the mid-air so he was fine. Plus it would've been my fault anyway. I guess if my friend was to damage any of my BJDs, I would expect them to replace the damaged part. Now days all the BJD companies do offer separate parts when they are damaged.. But personally, I have a very small group of friends in BJD community and unless a person has a knowledge of how to handle BJDs, I wouldn't let them hold it to easily. As for my feelings.. I probably will be very surprised and devastated, but accident is an accident. As long as everything works out, I wouldn't cause a drama. :D

[clochette]

I've had dolls accidentally hurt by others...I try not to get all wigged about it, especially if it was truly an accident. Most hurts can be fixed, if not by me then by a friend, and once you've had a major damage (broken fingers, etc.) I find that it's less "OMG". I keep spare hands/extra parts just in case...I think I have four pair of Elfdoll hands now, after the Hub broke Moira's.

I've had fragile collections all my life. I've had to deal with things breaking. Gravity can be a pain at times.

[Poppy]

Sorry id go beserk...id throw the biggest tantrum.........id go ape mad

[Ares]

All friends who see my SDs are SD owners from time ago and they are very carefully. All my dolls are LE. or custom. If someone have a little (or great) damage, will be hard for me.

[Saash]

I actually did have a doll accidentally damaged by a friend. It was my first BJD and I was having problems getting him to stand so I decided to try wiring him. I had already tried restringing, and since it gave me fits, my friend decided to help me by grabbing the doll out of my hands and shoving the wire in. Doll ended up with a couple of gouges in his back. I was not happy, and my friend said he'd pay for the doll if he permanently damaged it, then I told him how much it was worth and he threw it at me. (fortunatly I caught it :dead) At least the scratches weren't deep and I was able to sand them out.

I just scolded my friend afterwards. If the damage had been something worse though, I would have thrown a fit.

[fieraentara]

I had this happen, with a baha. I was letting her borrow her to see the sizes for clothing, and she called me crying saying she had accadentally dropped her. I came over, scared to death, and found it was really minor. She paid for it to be fixed so all is good now. Well except my baha had to be sold, but that's another thing. ^^

[haku23]

Honestly, I wouldn't have to do anything. They'd freak out all on their own. Of course I would be upset but I've seen many a doll brought back from the brink and have an attitude that "anything can be fixed!". If they broke something they would start screeching that they'd pay for it so I'm really not worried! Also they probably would be too nervous to even touch him to begin with ha ha

[Lokita]

Honestly, I have no idea what I'd do :s I'd most likely ask them to pay for repairs if it was something I couldn't deal with myself like a ding or something.

Worst part is that my dolls are twins... So depending on the damage, they wouldn't look like twins anymore :x

[diddoh]

I'm actually fairly rough with my dolls and found a chip on one of their faceups the other day (I do my own so no heart attack there). I don't mind people handling my dolls as I'm glad people other then me are enjoying them. That being said I don't generally leave my dolls alone with people. And if anything did happen I would hope they would take responsibility and pay for any damage I couldn't fix myself. The only two people I would leave alone with my dolls are both very responsible. One is a collector and understands fully what the value of these dolls is. If anything happened to my dolls in their care I know they would feel worse then me and pay for any repairs.

[Resin Angels]

Kill them!!! >_<

[Astrid]

Wow that is hard to say if a friends damaged the doll. I guess if the friend knew how much you doll meant to you they would offer to pay to send it to a modder or replace the part ... if they could not afford it then I guess you would have to be forgiving but more careful of you let your dolls hang around with :)

[Otty]

I hope this won't happen!!

Well, yes probably true friends are more important than a doll but true friends should know that it's the darling doll. I think friend should offer you some money to help you fix them la. ^ ^

[Beanie]

I'd be angry. I don't ever damage my dolls by accident so why should other people. No matter how careful my freinds and family are with them I don't trust anyone with my girls.

[BunnyChan]

If a friend ever damaged my doll, I'd ask them to accidentally pay for the damage that they accidentally caused. Simple as that.

A friend should be mature enough to admit that they might have broken something of yours, and do the grown up thing offering to fix the problem. If they don't then ASK them to be responsible for what they did and pay for it.

There's no shame in asking someone- friend or not- to fix something of yours they broke. In my opinion, the word friend is not a free pass to break stuff and not be responsible for it.

[this-lonely-place]

I'd be upset obviously... but depending on the extent of the damage. I would however be ever reluctant to ever let the friend in the presence of any of the dolls unsupervised from then on till I could trust them once more to be extra careful.:doh

[Kogepan]

Aack. I'm glad things worked out with your friend in the end.

For me... I don't let anyone handle my doll. I actually store him in a box. But I'm very possessive of my possessions. ;) My friends know that I'm generous with giving gifts or helping out, but will. not. share. anything. EVER. unless it's cheap and replaceable. (To make it even, I also do not accept offers to share/borrow my friends' expensive things - I don't want the stress of that responsibility.)

If someone messed up my doll (or my laptop, or my camera - though the doll is more vulnerable as its appearance is its function, whereas the laptop will survive a scratch), there'd be hell to pay. Therefore, I don't allow such a situation to develop. *cough* I'm secretly a little relieved that my friends aren't into bjd and I kind of hope they don't get into it, so we won't have to play with dolls together. ^^;

But in my case, this is kind of a personal quirk. I'm definitely more strict about my belongings (or anyone's belongings, really) than most of the people I know.

[Rayne]

people just love to come into my room and grab and play with things(especially my brothers friends) so I can see this being a problem when my doll arrives, I dont think many people realise just how expensive they are so they will generally be reckless from the start bar the few people who are very carefull and respectfull of other peoples property (I have read of these kind of people) lol

[klum*9]

I don't have any doll friends that live near me at all, so it is no problem! But if I did have someone whom I allowed to handle a doll damage it, I would expect them to help me seek repair options. I don't let people handle my dolls unless I know they know what they are doing.

[aneemal]

I'm sure friendships are thicker than resin! :p

[cinnacinna25]

I think I'd be very sad, but luckily my friends are really careful with my dolls so no problem. One time a workmate touched my Lolly's face and I was really angry inside but I didn't tell her because that was only about 2 seconds. I was affraid that she will ruin her face-up...:mad But nothing happened, fortunately. But if p.ex. that girl cause some damage on my dolls, I would mop up the floor with her.:ninja

[errinreynolds]

I don't have my doll yet, but I think that I'd have to explain the severity of my attachment to the doll before I even let anyone handle it unsupervised. I understand accidents happen but most people spend quite a bit of time and effort saving up for their dolls, having them broken would be sad, but as long as the person was at least willing to pitch in to fix a serious break (or reall sorry for a not so serious break) then it wouldn't be too bad...I think.

Granted I don't have my dollie yet so I can't tell...

[Mellybeans]

It is something that concerns me every now and then. Most of my friends know nothing about the dolls, and are perpetrators of the infamous "grabby-hands." -.- I wouldn't hold it against that person for long if they did break something, but if it was serious damage, I would more or less force them to pay for atleast some of it. ;p

[kakei]

Oh scary
If my friends do that they'll got my sky-kick

[susiesadeyes]

As long as it was not intentional, not much...just keep them far from dolls in future!

[ellynor]

Lately, and in my ripe old age of 40+, I have become more relaxed about things. When I was younger, I would have felt angry with the feeling of heavy tension between my shoulder blades. Today, I would pick up the doll, ispected it, and potentially work to sand the chip down (depending on the chip). If this is the wrong path, I wouldpost to the groups looking for input and/or assistance.

[shikaruchan]

well with me if some one wrecked my doll i would spaz and demand that they ether get it fixed or re-place it

[Jescissa]

I really love my dolls and I really love my friends and for that reason, I wouldn't leave any of my dolls in the care of any of my friends. It wouldn't be fair on my friends if something happened to one of my dolls while they were supposed to be looking after them, they don't know the value of my dolls and they don't know the posing tricks I have to do to get my dolls to stand etc... and I would almost certainly resent a friend if any of my dolls came by any damage in their care, even if the damage was unintentional.

Ultimately it would be a terrible idea! However, if I needed to store my dolls at a friend's house while I was on holiday or moving home, I would keep the dolls stored in their boxes, tied shut with ribbons. The temptation to open a box is significantly less than the temptation to pick up a life-like doll.

[boots]

I wouldn't leave my dolls with anyone... I mean - why should I? They're not real living children that needs to be taken care of when I'm away. I might let one or two go 'on holiday' with some of my best friends (for photo-stories); but I know they would take even better care of my dolls than of their own, so that's no problem. Should anything happen anyway... no, I wont think that through.... ;)

If I bring some dolls with me downstairs to show them off and something happens I have only myself to blame. That's how I see it.

I haven't been at doll meetings yet; but if I went I would only let people that are used to the dolls get near them. Most of my dolls are not too expensive - yet I do care for them, and it would break my heart if one of them e.g. broke the nose off.... I wouldn't blame others unless someone took the doll without permission and then dropped it on the floor. I'm not afraid that will happen, though. Most of the doll-people I know have been into dolls for years.... They know how to handle a doll.

Still - accidents happen - and in case of an accident I'll go back to the 'I can only blame myself'.

[Kesra]

This is all very insightful. I think there is going to be a doll meetup at Ohayocon and I'm wanting to get a look at other BJDs before I look into purchasing my own (To find out what size I like and whatnot) I better remember to bring a pair of gloves in case I decide to ask if I can touch any of them ^^;

When I do get one, it's unlikely most of my friends will be allowed to touch her. At all. They have no sense of value for someone else's belongings.

[CherryChansGifts]

I think that if I let one of my friends borrow a doll of mine and they damaged it on accident, I could forgive them and just ask them to help me repair it...you know...like if it's a scratch, I would ask them to buy me some light sand paper and some acrylic paint or whatever is required to fix it myself. If it was something serious...I would just tell them that I forgive them, but they can't mess with my dolls unless I am close by to prevent a catastrophe and I would ask them to help me pay for the damage. But if they did it on purpose...I have to say that I would never trust them again and needless to say I would stop being friends with them because that would mean that they didn't care about me to begin with. But that's just my opinion.